Hey BB girls! We did it again. The semester is over, and it is time for holiday break. This time should be very exciting, but for some of us (me) it can build extreme anxiety when we finally have time to sit and breathe.
Personally, I like to always be busy (running from meetings to meetings, working, and thinking about the future) in order to feel like I’m being productive in my life. However, I am trying to learn that it is alright to take a break sometimes, binge Netflix, eat ice cream, and hang out with friends. Sometimes it is best to just sit in a quiet room and reflect on all you have done this semester.
This semester has been a trying time for most of us navigating college through a pandemic, and I know that we all worked very hard to do our very best to just make it through. Now, during this break, I feel like I am not doing enough. I look on social media and see many young women launching their own businesses and living their best lives, so it is very hard for me not to compare myself to them at times. When I experience these feelings of doubt, I try to remember that I’m on my own personal life track, and my marathon may not look like everyone else’s. That is ok.
Try not to put yourself down when you see others accomplishing great things around you. Use it as inspiration. Reflect on your own semester, and congratulate yourself on all of the amazing things you have accomplished; I promise it’s more than you think. This moment of gratitude can remind you that you are amazingly gifted and talented in your own way. I say all of this to say that it is ok to take a break and breathe. I think society portrays this false image that Black women always have to be on the move and working; however, Black women need self care too. Here are some “me time” activities that I’m trying over my holiday break. Maybe you can try a couple during this time as well.
Making hot cocoa from scratch while listening to my favorite playlists.
Having a “girls night” with my friends, playing Christmas themed games, and catching up on the semester.
Going to the spa.
Finding a good book to read. One suggestion is Unapologetically Ambitious: Take Risks, Break Barriers, and Create Success on Your Own Terms by Shellye Archambeau.
Practicing meditation. This can be as simple as sitting in a quiet room for a couple of minutes.
Overall, use this time to breathe and relax. It is ok to sit still for a moment. I promise, it is not a waste of time.
With love from your fellow BB girl,